What Dating a Dominatrix / Submissive Switch Taught me

It is impeccable that we have an idea of where we are supposed to draw the line. During the acts of a sensual encounter, being able to draw the line at the right point may have a major role to play. When it comes to emphasizing on the wildest dreams and desires of an individual, having the requisite consent is really important.
As a matter of fact it can be the deciding factor as to whether or not the relationship would have a future. People often fail to realize the fact that there is a very fine line between consent and compulsion. This line is often breached and therefore the most deleterious results take place. The important thing that we need to realize is where we are supposed to draw the line.
So how do we begin with the act?
Manifesting sexual desires into the real world actually calls in for a lot of guts. We are absolutely blank regarding how our counterparts are going to react and therefore we may not have the best of idea about anything. It can also lead us to lose our way and in turn engage into something which is completely unacceptable.
The fine line between consent and compulsion can be best understood from an integral point of view. It is best we communicate with our partners and let them know of our desires and sexual thoughts.
In such a way the participants can expect a generous talk with respect to the topic such that they get to know about what they both want.
Often a mutual agreement is brought up where the partners are ensured of the acts that they are going to undertake. At times however, the entire ordeal is not this well-defined. Sometimes the partners willingly decide to go with the flow and let the things happen on its own. This is where there are chances of compulsion tend to kick in. In order to avoid a compulsive situation, it would be better to understand the comfort ratio of the partner. If they are comfortable with the act then it is a green signal, but anything apart from it might be indicative of something else.
There have been instances when people have crossed the line and ended up under the instances of compulsion while being carried away with the flow of the events.
What if we are not able to decipher the fine line?
In case if we are unsure of where the line stretches to, it would be better to have a complete conversation with the partner. It may be an incredibly tough ordeal for the people that tend to be reserved, but it’s always good to have a healthy chat before engaging into sex with the partners.
A conversation is actually the best way to bring about the prospects of one’s preference. It entitles both of the people to understand the need of the hour and how they must get on with the act for the best of results surrounding their sexual fantasies.
 
 

One of the most consistent factors in any type of a relationship revolving around the concept of BDSM has been stereotyping the person. It is often made to believe that the person taking on the role of the dominant individual needs to be an alpha in real life or is rather an alpha in real life.
To be honest, this convention is not completely true as stereotyping an individual based on their professional life would be absolutely baseless. The proposition however is partly correct owing to the fact that a major proportion of the dominatrix comprises of the alpha males in real life. Basically these people are businessmen, entrepreneurs and team leaders that have to deal with the stigma of being an “alpha” in their real life.
Why do we have such a high proportion of BDSM “alpha” clients?
One of the key elements that play a major role in such a high number of corporate individuals as clients is the fact that they have to deal with a lot of stress on a daily basis. The “alpha” nature of their life plays a dominant role in bringing about the prospects of having to deal with a lot of responsibilities.
In such a case the person generally tends to be submissive as they wish to be dominated and feel the mesmerising act for real. What is astounding is the fact that this role reversal is what one would least expects to happen. But at the end of the day being debarred from conventional life owing to the stigma of being the “alpha” is often way too much.
The question is that why do these people engage in such activities on such a prolific scale? Well the answer lies in the fact that having sensual encounters is a major form of stress buster. During any form of a sensual encounter, the hormones secreted by the hypothalamus helps the person to relax and drift away from the tensions and perils of daily life.
The deepest of secret desires within any man gives an insight into the lives of the person. It enables us to see what the person is from within. The corporate clients that tend to be the “alpha” in their profession maybe longing be in a relationship where they would be submissive in nature. They may have a softer side to themselves which they wish to explore through the pathway of the desires that they have.
A lot of successful businessmen are engaging themselves in BDSM
Over the years, a large number of businessmen from various parts of the world have been engaging in the act of BDSM. This can be related to the fact that they have to deal with a lot of corporate pressure on a daily basis. Such a regime has a major impact on their personal life.
BDSM is one such aspect of sexual encounter which can essentially take the person off the charts. It is simply another whole new dimension to sex which works as a therapy. It essentially brings about a completely new aspect to the individual.